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Funeral for 2, how to bury a bad dream while it is still alive and well.

While rushing to get home today, I was stopped "dead on the road" so-to-speak by... a funeral parade. It reminded me of an important funeral that gets talked about in almost all of my family reunions. 

My aunt Carmen (her real name) is one of those women that can get almost everything right in life except a good man. An attractive 40 something, twice divorce, active person, Carmen one day announced to the family that she had finally found the right man, she was in love... again. Welcome "Alfonzo". (His real name,). And after they met they had the most wonderful time of their lives... all 3 weeks of them! That is when they had the first big fight and parted ways... for a few days... only to re-connect a few days later. 

For the next year & half, they fought, split apart and reconciled almost weekly. She would find him with other women all over town, he would tell her he will be in one place and then she will find him in another place with another female companion.  

All come to an abrupt end when she discovered he had 2 other girlfriends, a pregnant wife... and two kids! Aunty Carmen loved this guy so much, and kept coming back to him, time and time again, but this time, it was different, her heart could not be mended anymore, in their last fight, she even threatened to kill him!  

On a rainy Saturday afternoon my aunt Carmen got dressed in all black including a veil and drove towards the cemetery, she waited for a couple of hours crying inconsolably, all alone in her car. Finally here it comes, a funeral procession entered, cars and people followed the hearse, my aunt got out of her car and joined the mourners, she cried as hard as any family member of the deceased, she even participated on throwing a handful of dirt onto the casket, she cried so hard that it moved people to gave her their condolecenses. 

The picture we got from her was that she did look and felt miserable in that graveyard, soaking wet, with dirt all over her, swollen eyes from crying, and the family of the deceased trying in a hostile manner to find out who she was. To this day, we do not know weather the deceased was a man or a woman, and as she told us the story, we were in tears... tears of pain! We were laughing out so hard, wondering what the grieving family thought of this stranger in their funeral. But for Aunty, she had buried her man. For all intends and purposes he was for her as dead as a doorknob, granted we all knew he was very much alive and well, frolicking perhaps with yet another woman. 

The big test come just 2 weeks after that funeral when Carmen and a girlfriend of hers come face to face with "Alfonzo" and his date at a restaurant. He come to her and asked her how she was doing, she looked at him directly in his eyes and asked him who he was. He was horrified when she told him that she had just attended his funeral! The man of her dreams was dead and buried forever; the stranger in front of her was no one she could recognize. Her heart had finally healed.

Now anytime I see a funeral I wonder if the cadaver is the only think being buried that day.

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Comment balloon 8 commentsAntonio & Alexia Cardenas • September 03 2008 11:25PM


What a fantastic story.  Carmen soundls like someone I would love to meet! 

Posted by Pam Pugmire, Meridian Idaho Real Estate (Silvercreek Realty Group) over 11 years ago

That is a great story!  It is something that I would have never thought of doing, but it sounds like it works for your Aunt Carmen and that's great!

Posted by Tony & Darcy Cannon, The C Team (Aubrey and Associates Realty) over 11 years ago

Pam, thanks, Aunty now "googles" every guy before she goes out with him!

Tony & Darcy, This idea has worked for other people too. It is the mind that counts!

Posted by Antonio & Alexia Cardenas, "The Realtors In Motion" (Alameda County - San Leandro, CA.) over 11 years ago

Great Story, great picture of you two dancing....I am from northern CA, was married at the pleasonton hotel....Thanks for the comment on my blog about e-mail forwarding...

Posted by Sidney Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula, Realty Works Temecula (Realty Works Temecula) over 11 years ago

I am so glad your name is Antonio and not Alfonzo! This story should be made into a movie or is hilarious and sad at the same time. Thanks for sharing, its great.

Posted by Terrie Leighton, Reno Real Estate Agent ~ Selling Homes in Reno (Ferrari-Lund Real Estate ) over 11 years ago

Cute post. enjoyable reading, and heart felt.  My sister lives in San Antonio and is going through a divorce. I'll send her your post. Thank you.

Posted by Tracy Santrock, Raleigh - Cary Realtor/Broker In Charge (Fonville Morisey/Santrock Realty Group, Inc. ) over 11 years ago

Jane, Thank you, the Pleasanton hotel is a great place to go and hang out, Great place to say "I do"

Terrie, You are welcome, I agree with you about the movie thing... with permission from my wife I could play "Alfonzo"

Tracy, I only hope that your sister does not have to go that far, but if it works... and mends her heart, that is why I wrote the post for. Besides is cheaper than counseling!

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